On Life: the twists, the turns & the bumps in the road


My brother and I would listen to this guy’s tale of woe and just laugh hysterically, not at the guy, just at the circumstances he would get himself into and the way he’d try wiggle out of it and just keep getting deeper and deeper into the poop. I’m guessing this guy always liked his ‘hair shirt’ and with some gentle prodding by Bob and I, this fella started to catalog these stories into a book. All it took was changing his point of focus from victim to ‘straight man’ and now he has stories to write ‘til the cows come home.

It’s been said that the opinion of others is what gives you your reputation but your opinion of yourself is what will determine your character, what you do and how you act when nobody’s looking. And the twists, the turns and the bumps in the road that you will encounter over a lifetime and how you react to them will help forge that character. Will you be the kind that shrugs off a bump or a twist, knowing that it’s just part of the journey? Or will you be the kind that whines, whines and whines at the slightest inconvenience because you, in all your infinite wisdom, did not anticipate the smallest thing going wrong? (Oh Lord, just take me now). No wonder most of your time is spent alone. One of the secrets to joy and happiness is to be able to laugh at yourself no matter what your situation or circumstances dictate.   

            However you start out in your life it’s a safe bet that will you get to where you’re going eventually but only after detour after detour or the twists, turns and bumps in the road. And, no, they weren’t put there just for you; sooner or later, everyone has to get through them. This is what provides our journey with its color, this makes our travels unique. Your role and perhaps your destination may change throughout your lifetime but be careful that you never let that diminish your individuality. Learn to build your life around that core that separates you from all others, not your role; otherwise, when your role changes your self-worth goes down the tubes. Don’t allow the changing times or your change in direction to change who you are, to make you stop dreaming or even giving up hope. You must remain resolute. When your role changes, as it inevitably will, remember that your life is not over, this is just another roadblock. This can be added to the list of other things that you had to go over, under, around or through. None of us knows what God will do with the rest of our days before it’s all over with. But more times than not, He has a way of saving the best for last. And the longer that I’m on this earth, the more I can give testament to that fact.

            God created all men equal. After that, you’re on your own, pal [advice from my grandpa]. We can make our life whatever it is that we choose or we can do nothing. It’s all up to us. You come into this world all by yourself and, more than likely, you’re going to leave the same way. In between the entrance and the exit, we are burdened with the subtleties of life where we are allowed to paint our own canvas. And we can do whatever it is that we wish to do. Some will be selfless, some will be selfish. That’s their right. Some will be cherished by others, some will be despised. Again, that’s their right. There is no guide telling you what to do and what not to do, you’ll have to figure that out for yourself. Hopefully, you try to enjoy yourself on this journey. And none of us knows how long our journey will last. All of the people in all of the cemeteries never finished what they intended to. There’s wisdom in that if you look for it. At least, that’s the way I see it. It’s been fun. Take it slow. God bless. MLProko (2011) more at www.mikeproko.com  

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