By all accounts, it started out as a beautiful day—a sunny Saturday under a bright blue southern Arizona sky holding with it the promise of the New Year, itself barely a week old. And then, someone put his finger on a trigger and in the same amount of time it took to write these first three lines 6 people were dead and 19 were wounded. That quick. Among the wounded was a Congresswoman just re-elected in a hotly contested race just 8 weeks before. The dead included a sitting Federal judge and a 9 year old girl. In less than a couple of heart-beats, the lives of countless number of people would be changed forever. That seems to be the measuring stick by today’s standards- a couple of heart-beats—one, two or three seconds; someone gets your goat- unload on ‘em in a couple of seconds; someone driving like a nut—flip ‘em off, it only takes a second or two. There are those in our society today who seem to think that their actions or their comments have no consequence. Not only are they full of themselves but they’re making it unbearable for the rest of us, the silent majority.
I remember rolling my eyes as a kid when I lost my temper and my grandma told me to count to 10. And when someone did lose their temper, my grandma always put her finger up to her lips and instructed us not to respond in kind. How does that work like that? You take your ordinary run-of-the-mill uneducated, ill-bred ignoramus and he’s allowed to run off at the mouth while the others sit by and say nothing. What’s worse is you put him on the radio or you give him a t.v. show. One elected official, acquainted with a number of the shooting victims, spoke of the hate and the animosity that pervades throughout our society today stirred up by people of this ilk. Geez, Louise, the press and all the other elected officials were all over that guy presumably for, dare say it, speaking the truth. The official, a cop, lamented that this was not the America that we all grew up in. And those with the bully-pulpits of radio and television made this guy look like he was the bad guy. Well, they’re wrong. We know it. And they know we know it. B.S. only goes so far.
America has lost its civility. And those things like grace, class and elegance seemed to have been tossed by the wayside with it. You see, you never had to have wealth or position to obtain any of those traits; they were handed down from generation to generation. It was all in how you carried yourself, how you treated others and how you could disagree with someone without being disagreeable. Simply put, you had CLASS. This is the America that we all grew up in. Back then, we were proud to be Americans.
There are those who would say that the reality is that this is the new America. Call me old-fashioned, call me a romantic but I kinda liked the old ways and the old days a lot more. There was a substance then that is sadly missing now.
When we initially heard of the shooting in Tucson, the internet (Yahoo!) originally reported that the Congresswoman had been killed. Three hours later, they corrected the mistake, but the vitriolic comments posted on the Yahoo site gave you pause and made you sick AND angry. The first: Good, she had it coming. She voted for Obamacare! And then, they got worse. I was infuriated. I wanted to strike out but I remember my grandma with her finger to her lips. I’m much better off writing about hope and a brighter tomorrow and all things positive, not the opposite. Besides, gram used to tell us that you can’t make a silk purse out of a pig’s ear. Well, she didn’t really say ‘ear’; her focus was on the other end of the pig. Y’know, I think she was right.
At least, that’s the way I see it. MLProko (2011) additional columns at www.mikeproko.com